5 OF THE BEST BOOKS FOR YOUR MENTAL HELP

Mental health illnesses can be very isolating, whether you have depression, anxious, bipolar, OCD or an eating disorder. Disordered come in all shapes and sizes, however, they all have a way of making you feel claustrophobic and reclusive. One of the main things which helped me through my darkest time was finding books which

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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As someone who suffers from anxiety, I often care too much about what people think – I give too many fu*ks about people’s opinion of me and it can leave me feeling sick and overwhelmed!

I was recommended this book by one of the girls I use to work with and I’m SO glad she did. As the book says, there are only so many things we can give a fu*k about.

And because there are only so many things we can give a f*ck about we need to figure out which ones really matter! I really connected with this book, it highlighted to me that while money is nice and obviously has its importance, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Reasons To Stay Alive 

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I have so many things I could say about this book, the prerogative title caught my eye – in my darkest moments having something to relate to and give me a little bit of light is comforting. This book was honestly the first thing that made me realise I wasn’t crazy – I wasn’t alone and it was so freeing. There is a point in the book where Matt Haig says in his darkest moment he didn’t want to be alive – he didn’t want to kill himself, but he just didn’t want to be alive. When I read those words I burst into tears – I’m been feeling that way on and off for years, and to know someone else felt that way too was heartbreaking, it is also felt like I could breathe again for the first time in a long time – it was a release and relieving – I’m really interested in reading more of Matt’s work, it’s really rare that some-ones story mirrors your own and makes you feel less alone.

We’re Going to Need More Wine

GU.jpg This might seen like an usual choice, but I really enjoyed Gabrielle’s book – it was raw, honest, funny and incredibly touching. Fortunately there are experiences in Gabrielle’s life which I cannot and will not fully understand – but as a woman who has been in a dark place, I can empathise and sympathise with her. I think it’s so brave and moving when people open us and share their experience and tell their stories with others – it breaks down barrier and reaches out a hand to those who may be suffering. Throughout, she compels me to be ethical and empathetic, and reminds me of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.

 

You Do You

ydy.jpg This book is written by the same author who brought us The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuckand Get Your Shit Together. Sarah Knight’s no-holds-barred method to helping you do you to the best and truest of your ability. Sarah Knight’s writing confronts the idea that “being yourself” is nowhere near as simple as it sounds, especially in an age of sky-high expectations fuelled partly by the growing influence of social media in 21st century culture. Here she builds people’s confidence to ditch perfect and rip up the rulebook that would tell us how to live our lives by sharing her own mistakes and embarrassments. You Do You is the proof you were looking for that, actually, we all mess up, and it’s fine. So stop beating yourself up.

 

The Mindfulness Colouring Book

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Finally, something a little light hearted – a mindfulness colouring book! The hobby is used as a calming relaxation tool with nostalgic undertones, people use them as a way to express creativity and unplug from the digital and screen heavy modern world.

 

 

The Career Sweet Spot

From the suffragette movement to #girlboss, women have been breaking barriers and smashing ceilings for centuries. Despite what you think of our current PM there was a time where a woman being the leader of the UK was laughable and Hilary Clinton wouldn’t have been allowed to wear a pantsuit let alone run for President of the America – basically women are killing it and owning the new world! However, what about the women who are content? Who aren’t looking to smash ceilings or sit in the Oval Office? Recently I read an article in Glamour magazine about the ‘career sweet spot’ the group of women who are successful but also wanted to be happy in their personal life, they had no interest in progressing further than the heights they had reached and they were bloody happy with where they sat.

Should more of us be happy with contentment, is this the only possible way to have it all? A partner, a family, a ‘work-life balance’ (whatever one of those is). Are we chasing the ideals of our male counterparts forgetting the extra things we can have in life? Honestly, as a 24-year-old woman, I have no clue! I know some women do have their own businesses, lovely homes, supportive partner and adorable children but are they the lucky few and what about the sacrifices we don’t see? The missed bedtimes or office outings – it must be harder than we think to have it all and be truly blissfully happy and stress-free.

A massive impact on my generation or at least the women who graduated at a similar time to me was those who saw the whirlwind that was Sophia Amourous and the creation of the term #girlboss but is the idea of being a #girlboss a pipe dream for the most of us? Or do we need to redefine what a #girlboss is? Is it time to coin a few # – a #girlleader or a #girlinspo – just because you’re not at the top of the ladder doesn’t mean you’re not killing it – the world is full of supermums and workers who are closer to the ground than the glass ceiling because that’s where they are needed and happy.

At my age, without any real ties such as a mortgage or kids I naively want it all – I want to hustle hard, take on too many projects, travel to as many countries and make my stamp on the world, but this might change one day, and the ‘career sweet spot’ might just be what I’m aiming for – to have as much as I can and enjoy life.

What do you think? Is it time we defined #girlboss? What does it mean to be a #girlboss to you? Are you happy in the career sweet spot, is it time people stop looking down on it and started realising that life doesn’t have to be late nights in the office, long meetings and the 9-5 (normally 9-6/7) we are working?

Personally, I don’t know but it’s definitely an interesting concept and one I think women should think about! There is a lot of pressure on us to have it all, but honestly, I think we should be ticking the boxes which matter to us and not those around us.

MY LONGEST STANDING BEAUTY FAVOURITES

I’ve been having a walk down memory lane recently, it’s been almost a year since I started taking my blog more seriously and started falling in love with blogging again. I’ve been blogging on and off for a number of years now on several different blogs, where has all the time gone, eh? Over the years I’ve tried, tested and tossed products and many have become staples in my beauty box. Here is just some products which have become long standing beauty favourites for me!

NARS Foundation: I first saw Nars in a crowded Selfridges when I was heading in to grab some pieces from Bobbi Brown, so I stumbled over and had a little induction by one of the make-up artists on hand. I loved Nars because it offer a more vibrant and fuller coverage than my Bobby Brown foundation at the time – I’ve been using this foundation for about 3/4 years now (I know I need to shake it up) but the coverage and colours are both great! So it’ll definitely be something I re-buy time and time again. The foundation leaves a glowing & looking natural. It leaves skin hydrated, more luminous, softer and smoother.

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Bobbi Brown Concealer: I often switch from the Nars liquid concealer and the Bobbi Brown cream concealer, I love the coverage and silkiness of the Bobbi Brown concealer, I suffer with dark circles and I have a little bit of pigmentation on my cheeks so this concealer is perfect for me. I love the Bobbi Brown collection as it really caters to pale and fair skin tones. Another timeless product for my beauty bag.

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Nars Blusher: Another product I adore from Nars is the blusher, I’ve literally had the Orgasm blusher for years, like the same bloody blusher (I should probably update this product). This product is really pigmented so it goes a long way and it’s has a lovely little shimmer to it and the colour is perfect for my pale skin, this product is an everyday make-up product and it’s an iconic product within the Nars collection so you can’t really go wrong.

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Real Technique Powder Brush: Ah, what is a make-up bag without a real technique brush – the brand which has changed the make-up brush game (I see you Spectrum don’t worry) it’s honestly the holy grail powder brush. Such good quality, nice bristles. Puts powder on flawlessly. What more can we ask for.

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Bobbi Brown Blusher Brush: I first got this brush in a Christmas brush set a couple of years ago (yes, I know I should probably update this), it was my first ‘high end’ make-up brush collection and I just loved every part of it. The blusher brush picks up make-up perfectly, it’s really smooth and easy to use – Bobbi Brownie points from me (I’m sorry!)

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Note: I’m trying to make my beauty bag completely cruelty free, so if you spot something which needs changing please let me know!